What You Do When No One’s Looking

What You Do When No One’s Looking
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We often gauge our behavior by who's watching. But what about the moments when no one is looking? Those moments when you pick up trash from the sidewalk, tip generously, or choose not to indulge in an unethical opportunity. It’s during these times, the unobserved and uncelebrated moments, that the essence of our character shines through. It's a testament to our true selves, our values, and our integrity.

Integrity: The Inner Compass
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At its core, integrity is about doing the right thing, even when no one is watching. It's not about seeking external validation but rather adhering to an internal code of honor. This might mean resisting the temptation to take shortcuts, even when they might save time or money. Or it could be as simple as returning extra change given at a store, even if you could easily pocket it.

The Mirror Test

Every night before you sleep, imagine standing in front of a mirror. This isn't a mirror that shows your physical appearance but rather a reflection of your actions and decisions for the day. Ask yourself:

• Did I act in ways that align with my values?
• Were there moments I compromised my beliefs for convenience?
• Did I do things that I would be proud to share with the world?

Using this mirror test regularly can serve as a litmus for your daily actions and choices.

Benefits of Acting Authentically

1. Self-Respect: When you act in alignment with your values, you cultivate a deeper sense of self-respect. Over time, these choices build a foundation of confidence and self-worth.
2. Trustworthiness: People tend to trust individuals who demonstrate consistency in their actions. When you act with integrity in private, it often spills over into your public life, making you a more trustworthy friend, partner, or colleague.
3. Peace of Mind: There's an inner peace that comes from knowing you've done the right thing. This tranquility can reduce stress, anxiety, and the mental turmoil that accompanies regret.

Small Actions, Big Impact

While it's easy to dismiss the significance of the small choices we make daily, it's these very choices that compound over time to shape our lives. It's akin to the butterfly effect, where one small action can set off a series of events with unforeseen consequences.

Consider the story of a man who once found a wallet filled with money. He could've easily kept it, but he chose to return it. The wallet's owner was so touched by the act that he paid forward the kindness in numerous ways, creating a ripple effect of goodwill.

What you do when no one's looking defines who you are more than any accolade or achievement ever could. It's a reflection of your core, a peek into your soul, and a demonstration of your true character. Embrace these moments as opportunities to prove to yourself (and nobody else) who you truly are. And remember, in the grand tapestry of life, it's often the stitches we don't see that hold everything together.

Thanks for reading.
Ken
​klubin@zrgpartners.com