“Quitting Sucks”: An Interview
By Jesse Bastide, Stockholm, Sweden
At the end of November, I had the pleasure of interviewing Ken Lubin. Since Ken is no slouch when it comes to the writing department, I’ll let him introduce himself right now.
“I am an Executive Athlete, Executive Recruiter, father and husband who loves to push the limits of physical and mental endurance. I love to see what the body and mind can achieve and intentionally put myself in difficult circumstances.” -http://www.mudandadventure.com/2013-death-race-recap-by-ken-lubin-tied-for-winner/
Here’s a quick overview of what you’ll learn if you read this entire interview:
(unless you are willing to embrace it)
That is the number one reason.
When most of us are kids we say we are going to be a Ski Guide, Coach, Teacher, Dr., Lawyer or CEO, but what percentage of the population actually becomes who they dreamed about? Very minimal. We have become content, to make just enough, and watch too much TV, rather than working to achieve our dreams. Have you ever noticed those that land the dream jobs, spent countless hours going after them; often times working for free or minimum wage, they had the belief that they will reach their goal, they were willing to sacrifice, eat PB&J and put their head down. (most of us won’t do that) They didn’t let others influence them or take the easy way out, they committed, stayed focused and worked their asses off towards the goal.
Did you do that? Or did you become content, mediocre, and just skate by. If you did and enjoy it, good for you, but if you are asking how do I get my dream job, you have to be willing to lay it on the line, become friends with your fear and push through when no one else believes. It is a very simple concept, but not easy. Admit it, you let your fear get in the way, because fear of the unknown if much scarier than comfort in the present. (remember great things don’t come from comfort zones)
So start your podcast, build your site, create your tribe…. Because what you do for work, is not who you are, create you, and create your dream job.
During the initial phases of my business career it seemed as though the most successful were the biggest jerks. (we all the know the types) That in order to rise to the top that you need to be an arrogant know it all that had all the answers. It was very intimidating, demeaning, but somewhat interesting. What I learned is that many of them had the least self-esteem, no real friends and were ultimately suffering the worst. They didn’t feel the need to apply the principles of
Wouldn’t it be much more fun and easier to treat your coworkers and customers with respect? Be able to provide common courtesy? Teach others how win and not keep everything for yourself? This is how winning teams and cultures are made- create a no A**Hole culture and believe me you and your business will thrive! – Ken
None of us like to do it, it doesn’t feel good, and many times it hurts!
It is absolutely necessary for optimal physical, mental, and professional performance. Stretching means that you need to get out of your comfort zone to get to the next level. There is temporary pain, but will allow you to go deeper and farther than you ever thought possible if done consistently and deliberately. Have you ever noticed that if you get used to stretching, that after while the pain goes away and it feels good? but if only you stay on top of it! If you stop you go right back to where you started, the same goes for achieving success. You need to be consistently stretching your comfort zone to get to you where you want to go! The pain is temporary, but the glory last forever. - Ken
Changing the mindset to a successful/positive mindset for me is the single most important thing that you can do. My default is always to go to the negative, the dark side and believing that things are going to blow up rather than work out and by doing that you create the law of attraction on the worst case scenario. Having a winning, positive and focused mindset sets you in the right direction. The forward thinking, positive mindset lets you see things you normally wouldn’t. It allows your brain to expand to let in the good and possibility , it forces the brain down a different path rather than the default that I/you have trained it. It allows the brain to get to the next step. It is where true vision comes from. Mindset and forward vision are almost synonymous and when the mindset that is full of positivity , focus and possibility. The results are much better than the depressive and anxiety driven mindset that I/we and many of us struggle with most of the time. Realizing the power of your mind and what it can give or take from you, (both positive and negative) is the key to changing any situation you are in. Changing your mindset may sound simple and it is, but it is definitely not easy. Having awareness of the power of your mind is an amazing first step. Be aware and the future is full of possibility.
Winning in life is key, if you are going into life to not win then why are you here? Life is all about trying to become the best version of you! Everyone thinks that winning if going over the line first, that isn’t it, winning is about being better than you were yesterday. Winning is about pushing yourself to get over your own finish line, winning is about stepping outside of your own comfort zone. That is winning.
Believe me, and don’t get me wrong, I love to get across the finish line first, but my competition is not everyone else, my competition is me, it is about pushing my limits of what I think I can do and taking off the governor. I am not someone that is naturally smart, athletic or gifted. For me to win, I need to work harder, go longer, think more and apply myself more than most. I know that when I don’t do the things that push me forward, I start going backwards. And it plays with my mind, body and spirit. I get really pissed off at myself when I lose momentum. In my subconscious I know that I what I am doing isn’t working. I know that it is really forcing me backwards when I want to go forward. It makes me feel guilty, anxious and gross. In reality it is real time feedback that from you mind and body telling me what I have and haven’t done right. That is why it is so much easier to focus on the win rather than focus on being mediocre.
Most of us are looking to get the next level!
We are hungry for more, but many are looking for motivation from external sources, that is not where the next level comes from. It comes from your heart, your desire and your soul. Many times when you need motivation it is to late.
In our culture we think that we need to throw money at someone to motivate them. There is also the mindset that if we are going to take something away that they will also be motivated. These are both polar opposites looking for the same results!
The best way to get what you want is to have a burning desire to be better than you were yesterday. Push that one extra step, put that last drink down, lift that last rep, save that extra dollar. Those are the little things that will compound into the big results that you want.
Get out of your comfort zone and make it happen!
Managing Director at ZRG Partners, Global Executive Search Firm and Founder of Executive Athletes, the #1 based online community for executives who are athletes!